What is motherhood

I have a lot of friends who can't get pregnant.  I have friends who adopt.  I have friends who struggle getting pregnant.  I have a lot of friends who have tried IVF. I have friends who had a success with IVF and friends who didn't.

I remember asking a few of them what the hardest part about mothers day was... Most said that women don't realize what they are saying... phrases like "having so and so made me a mom"  ... "I didn't know love until I had so and so" ... and things like that.

I was curious if I'd think the same things when I gave birth to K.  If my feelings were the same. 

I didn't.  They weren't.

Let me tell you when I became a mom. To me being a mom is being able to unconditionally love someone.   When your feelings,  thoughts,  safety becomes less important than someone else.  I became a mom when I felt unconditional love. It wasn't even for someone else.... They felt it for me. 

My parents taught me unconditional love.   They are the best.  My mom... she's amazing.  She loves me... even though I really don't deserve it.  I've put her through more than any mom should.  But she still serves me.  She still loves me.  She'd do anything to make me happy. 

I learned what a mom is... from my mom.   That's when I became a mom.   When I no longer deserved the love she gave me... but she gave it freely. And without strings.

So I've been a mom since I could comprehend the extent of unconditional love... and even then I'm still learning just how deep that love is.  I didn't need to have a baby to learn what a mom is. Or to feel like I'm a mom.